Working With Parents Regarding Behaviors at Home

One of the major stressors that parents have to deal with on a daily basis is negative behaviors.  Negative behaviors can take the form of  non-compliance, physical aggression, and/or verbal aggression.  Behavioral management focuses on increasing on-task behaviors (e.g. behaviors parents want the child to engage in) while extinguishing off-task behaviors (the negative behavior).   Below are some bullet points that are important for parents to realize about behavioral management.

  • Child being told to be quietNegative behaviors always increase in intensity when being modified or extinguished.
  • Focus should almost always be on positive reinforcement of appropriate behaviors
  • Punishment only utilized when behavior is dangerous to the child or others
  • Reasons for failure of reinforcement systems

o   Too confusing; if we as adults do not understand them, then the child of course will not

o   The wrong behavior is being addressed

  • Goals need to be attainable

o   Child and parent have to see that the system will work

o   Slowly increase demands

  • Never take away a reinforcement that a child earned
  • The reinforcer will constantly change

o   What is rewarding today for the child will likely be different in the near future

Behavior almost always can be modified.  It is important for parents and professionals that are working with the child to understand that, in order for a behavioral reinforcement system to work, there needs to be consistency with the approach.   The idea is to set realistic and measurable goals and constantly identify how much improvement is exhibited.